The reason I began blogging all those years ago was my passion for modesty and purity. As a young Christian woman, I was troubled by the lack of modesty displayed by women of God and I wanted to be an encouragement, someone to tell younger girls that modesty does not equal being frumpy or ugly, and it does not mean that we have to dress ourselves in an unappealing way, in a way that hides our shapes, frames, or completely distorts how we look. I wanted young ladies to know that we can and should be confident in the bodies that God gave us, no matter the shape or size, and that when we dress modestly, we are simply respecting our Creator and ourselves. For a very long time, I struggled with the fact that I knew I needed to dress in a way that pleases the Lord and my desire to fit into society. I couldn’t stand dressing up as a younger girl, and the thought of a dress or skirt made me want to cringe. The moment that I got home from church, the only place that my parents asked me to wear dresses and skirts as a form of reverence and respect for the house of God, I would run to my room and change into a pair of jeans. I hated femininity and I hated modesty because I had no confidence in that type of apparel. Then, I began to search out scripture and find out what it says about modesty, and also began to read some books on the topic. At first, I was greatly convicted and felt as if I was doing my faith a great disservice by wearing pants and eventually, I came to the conclusion that I can be more modest in pants at times (think farm work, training horses and so on) as well as safer in them than I would be in a skirt. I’ve gone back and forth on what I believe on the topic of modesty and how Christian women should dress, and I’ve finally come to believe this,
What we wear speaks a great deal about what kind of life we’re living.
Think on this: You are in town and see a man walk into the same restaurant that you’re at. He’s dressed in an expensive suit, a nice tie, brand new shiny shoes, a briefcase in hand. He’s a businessman, or at the very least, someone with an important job. You see a woman in muddy, worn jeans, scuffed cowboy boots with spurs on the end. She works at a ranch, rides horses and probably works outside for most of the day. The Bible says that while man looks on the outer image, God looks in our heart, and this is a wonderful comfort. We can be saved no matter what we wear, what we’ve done, what we’ve said…but I believe that after salvation, we should want to please God and be a Godly witness. Man looks on the outer image. So what do they see when we walk into the room? What sort of conclusion do they draw? I want to be clear. I don’t believe that pants are immodest or sinful if worn properly and if they are the right size. I don’t believe that you must wear skirts or dresses 100% of the time, and I do not think that you’re not saved if you choose to wear immodest clothing. What I am saying is this…we are a gospel witness to everyone that we meet and our clothing says a lot about us. You can tell a lot about a person by how they dress. When people look at us, what are they seeing? Women, are they seeing a woman who dresses nicely, who covers her body out of respect for herself, her Savior, and possibly her future husband? Or do they see a women who resembles the world more than someone who has been born again, out of a sinful world?
This is a very hot topic, and I know that it is extremely easy to sound judgemental or holier than thou when discussing modesty and why I believe that modesty is important. Not only do I believe that it is important, but I believe that it should be an attribute that every Christian woman possesses. It may seem as if I am putting too much stock into the outer image and not enough on the spiritual side of things, but remember, we can be a witness in very simple ways. How we talk, how we behave, how we present ourselves. We can be a witness without ever mentioning God. I was in a grocery store on a Wednesday evening, just after church, when an older woman walked up to me and asked if I’d just been at church. I said yes, and she asked where I attended. She knew I had been at church because I was dressed in a certain way. I wonder, would she have asked if I was in leggings and a sweatshirt? If I was in short shorts and a revealing top? And does God not ask us to dress with reverence? Proverbs 11:22 – As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion. What does that word discretion mean in the Bible? The word “discretion” means: 1. The quality of being discreet; circumspection 2. Ability or power to decide responsibly. When we dress and show off our entire bodies, we are not dressing with discretion. When we respect our bodies and dress in a modest manner, we are dressing with discretion, respect and reverence towards God.
In just a moment I’m going to share a wonderful online shop with my fellow Christian ladies (and male readers…Christmas is coming up! There are lots of pretty things here for your favorite women!) that I hope will assist you in finding beautiful modest clothing. All of it can be customized to fit just about any size, shape or height! But before I do, I want to remind you of one more thing that scripture also says about modesty. When a man looks at a woman with lust, he has committed adultery in his heart. Women, you should never be blamed for a man’s mistake in committing adultery or acting out based on lust, but I want you to remember the power that our bodies have. When we dress immodestly, we are pushing our brothers in Christ towards lust, and we can very easily become a stumbling block in a very serious way. Are we trying to assist? Are we trying to help?
I received this beautiful dress from eShakti over Thanksgiving weekend and it has quickly become a new favorite of mine! The biggest perks…I could customize every part of it to suit my needs. As a petite person, it can be quite hard to make sure that my clothes aren’t far too long, and that I won’t get drowned in the things that I wear! The length was changed to suit my needs, as were the sleeves. You can even get the pockets removed! eShakti has a whole shop full of beautiful items that can be changed to suit your size, shape, height and modesty preferences! And if you register now, you can get a $30 off gift coupon + a free customization! It can be very hard to find modest clothing as trends go by and seem to leave modesty behind, but eShakti makes it possible and very, very easy! It’s always wonderful to partner up with eShakti and this is the second time that I’ve been able to collaborate with them. They are a total joy to work with!
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