This post may offend some people (what’s new?) and cause some, well, interesting, conversation in the comments on here or on my other social media sites, but it’s a post that I feel like is important. Because our world has hardly any good women anymore. I want to put a disclaimer here, and say that I’m not trying to say you can judge everything about a woman by how she dresses and presents herself, but yes, I believe that you can tell a lot about a person by how they carry themselves, what they wear, how they talk. And yes, I admit to being more conservative than some, but these are things that I believe are Biblical.
We used to have women like Elisabeth Elliot, Amy Carmichael, Fanny Crosby, and so on. We also used to have men like Charles Spurgeon, A.W Tozer, Oswald Chambers, and etc. If you look out in the world and talk to most women who claim to be Christian’s, there will be very few great ones that are sold out for Christ, living a Biblical life, and following the Lord no matter where He sends them. There aren’t many women out there who would give God the pen to their love story, trust in Him through everything He sends her way, even if her first love ends up martyred for Christ, and continue to be sold out for Him and do mission work like Elisabeth Elliot. There aren’t many women who would serve in India for 55 years without a furlough, even though she suffered daily from a disease that made her weak, achy, and put her in bed for weeks on end. What have happened to these women? What we have now is nothing short of a disgrace. Women, myself included, are selfish creatures. And it seems as though, through the years gone by, we have gotten worse and worse. We have neglected Christ, and abandoned Him almost completely. Our idea now of a Godly woman is simply a woman who attends church service, and seems to pray often, and stay in her Bible. I say seem to, because there is typically no proof of true prayer or Bible study in her life. We aren’t surprised when those “Godly” women show up to Church dressed as if she had just come home from a club. We aren’t surprised to hear them cuss, or at the very least, use words that a woman years ago would’ve been ashamed to say. We are no longer concerned with how we look, because this world has effected us. We say we can dress how we like, because of feminism, and men should be able to control themselves anyways. We have no concern about what God thinks. Before you think me too harsh, or judgmental, ask yourself this:
You are out in public, you see one woman in a short dress, nothing extremely immodest by our standards today, maybe it has spaghetti straps, comes a few inches above her knee. Comfortable, sure, but of course, it’s something that could be quite immodest in circumstances. (AKA, be careful when you bend over.) You see another woman dressed more modestly. I’ll say she’s in a long skirt or dress, shirt is modest, no cleavage, or leg showing. If I was to then ask you which you thought was the Christian woman, the pastor’s wife, the woman who had just gotten back from a mission field, which would you think was her? If your mind is remotely like me or the people I’ve asked this question, it’ll go towards the more modestly dressed woman. And y’all, I’m not saying that God says you must wear long dresses, or that we must cover ourselves completely, head to toe, as to not cause our brothers in Christ to stumble (Even though we most certainly should dress modestly for them, too.) but God does tell us that we are to be separate from the world, and when we dress a certain way, or perhaps, when our faces are covered in piercings and tattoos, we must ask ourselves – how are we showing Christ? Do we look more like the world, or would the world think we are Christ followers?
“The fact that I am a woman does not make me a different kind of Christian, but the fact that I am a Christian makes me a different kind of woman.”
― Elisabeth Elliot
Where have the great Christian women gone? Where has our meekness gone, our humility, our kindness, compassion?
I’ve talked to a lot of girls, many of them I’ve met through this blog, and I’ve been blessed to have met many good ones. Girls who desire to give God everything they have, to walk closely with Him. I’ve also met a lot of them who claim Christ as their Savior, but I have to be concerned with how they act and present themselves. Most Christian girls that I’ve met (and these girls would be considered good girls in today’s standards, and dare I say, they’d probably be considered good Godly girls in a lot of churches.) have no problem with being close friends with people who are unsaved and living a life of sin and who hate the Bible. Most of the girls have no problem with cussing, with dressing immodestly. They will claim to love Christ, but they forsake Him the moment they feel as though they won’t be accepted by the world.
How many girls do you know that would give up their belongings to become a missionary if God sent them? How many girls do you know that would give up boys and money and fancy college experiences in order to live a life completely focused on God and doing His work? How many girls do you know that are focused on God, that would write hymns like Fanny Crosby? That had those type of emotions for Christ?
As Amy Carmicheal said, “We profess to be strangers and pilgrims, seeking after a country of our own, yet we settle down in the most un-stranger-like fashion, exactly as if we were quite at home and meant to stay as long as we could. I don’t wonder apostolic miracles have died. Apostolic living certainly has.” It seems as though our Christian women (and men.) have settled here and are enjoying being like the world far too much to be concerned with what God would think.
Girls, I do not want to seem judgmental, but I want you all to look in your lives, study His word, and ask Him what He thinks of how you’re living, how you’re representing Him. I make this post only because I’ve realized how far I have personally strayed from His desire of what a woman of God should truly be, how she should act, who she should be. When you are saved, there should be a great change in you. Is there a change in you? Or do you blend in with the girls of the world?