I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
All around me, my peers are getting into relationships. Now, I’m still young. Some of you know my age, some of you don’t, and you may be thinking…well, you’ve got years and years ahead of you….why worry about relationships now? Already? But here’s the deal. Something all of you know, whether you’re married, single, or in a relationship or even friends with a potential future partner in life…society puts a lot of pressure on us to find the one, to get in relationships, to test things out. On one side, we may feel pressured to get married, have babies, have that life. On the other side, we feel pressured to date around, have sex, experience other people. At single groups, we often talk about getting married in the future. And what person doesn’t dream of that? I realized a few months ago that my main goal was finding a partner, the man God put on this earth for me, to get married…and I realized something…Jesus is the only man that counts. Would I be willing to give Him my life, for Him to be the only man in my life? For Him to be my heavenly lover, my Prince…my only desire? Was I willing to give up a future marriage, a future family, in order to give Him my all? If He asked me to give that dream away in order to serve Him…
Would I? Could I do it?
“I realized that the deepest spiritual lessons are not learned by His letting us have our way in the end, but by His making us wait, bearing with us in love and patience until we are able to honestly to pray what He taught His disciples to pray: Thy will be done.”
― Elisabeth Elliot,
When I pray for my future, am I asking Him to do only what I wish, or am I willing to give Him the reins completely, and ask for His will to be done? Even if His will is completely different than my desires?
I gave Him my all – my future, my heart, my body, my soul. After all, He paid for it. None of those things were ever mine to begin with. I urge you all to pray about your relationship status. Instead of following the norm, make sure you are following what Christ wants for you. Whether it’s becoming a house-wife, a mother…or if it means spending the entirety of your life waiting for His call, in sacred singleness serving Him, and worrying only about Him. As Max Lucado said, a woman should be so focused on God that a man has to find God in order to find her. If it is God’s plan to bring you a husband, be worthy of a Christ-like man. We will only receive what God wants to give us by being His and His alone.
“I took it for granted that there must be a few men left in the world who had that kind of strength. I assumed that those men would also be looking for women with principle. I did not want to be among the marked-down goods on the bargain table, cheap because they’d been pawed over. Crowds collect there. It is only the few who will pay full price. “You get what you pay for.”
― Elisabeth Elliot,
We are not ours. We are God’s, and God’s alone.